I don’t know whether he’ll turn out to be a catch or a cad, but at least he’ll know the kind of mama bear he’s dealing with. E-mail questions to Steven at [email protected](unfortunately not all questions can be answered).
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If you approach it like a mama bear trying to save her cub, you risk pushing him further into his boyfriend’s arms.Many agreed with you and found your son’s relationship objectionable.One gay man spoke for many when he posted: “I find middle-aged men who date teens of either gender to be emotionally stunted and chock-full of control issues.” Others volunteered their personal stories, often with happy endings.“Joseph” met his husband, who’s 14 years his senior, when the younger man was 21; they’ve now been together for 27 years. You fall in love with who that person is, not their age.” Meanwhile, Carl Sandler, who runs Age Appropriate, a blog about intergenerational dating, told me: “In the gay community, it is very common for younger and older men to date.Common interests are the new demographic — not age.” I’m not exactly sure how “common” such dating is, but I’m familiar with many same-sex couples with significant age differences.